Do you want peace of mind? Maybe like me, you’ve had trouble finding peace of mind since losing your wife. My wife died on April 12, 2018 from melanoma cancer. In the days after her passing I confess I felt lost, overwhelmed, confused, alone, and numb. I Tried Travel and Activity I found myself filling… Continue reading How to Have True Peace
Let me tell you my story. In August of 2016, my wife Benita and I took a lengthy “bucket list” trip. In our forty plus years of marriage, she had never been to the northeastern USA. She had heard stories from my early teens when I lived in New England as a military brat. She… Continue reading The Bucket List Trip
Problems Maybe like me, after you lost your spouse you found yourself faced with problems. Examples that challenged me included: Buying groceries Doing laundry and folding sheets Insurance claims Medical bills Car titles House deeds Claiming her small retirement account Changing the names on checking accounts Getting utilities that were in her name placed in… Continue reading How God Uses Problems in Your Life
Should I Attend a Grief Workshop? Before signing up for and attending, I knew grief, loss and transition workshops have value. I knew this from more than an intellectual understanding. I previously had attended a twelve-week workshop on three different occasions. Twelve years earlier my late wife and I attend the course offered by our… Continue reading Should I Attend a Grief Workshop?
Memorials Memorial Day is a great way to remember. As a widower, I’ve lost my wife. I have the sweet remembrances of our decades together. I can use days like Memorial Day to educate my adult children and grandchildren about my country’s history and my family history. Three Holidays for the US Military In the… Continue reading Memorial Day 2021
Three Year Anniversary Today is the three year anniversary of my wife’s passing. So many in my age range have lost their beloved spouse. I can think of over a dozen people off the top of my head who’ve lost their life partner. Maybe today you could say a prayer for them. You know friends that… Continue reading Three Year Anniversary of My Wife’s Passing
Workshops Have Value Before signing up for and attending, I knew grief, loss and transition workshops have value. I knew their value from more than an intellectual understanding. I had attended a twelve-week course on three different occasions. In 2006, my late wife and I attend the classes offered by our church following my mother-in-law’s… Continue reading Grief, Loss, and Transition Workshops
Coffee and Oatmeal It’s 6:10 AM on Monday morning, January 6, 2020. I’m out of the house and at my favorite coffeehouse. I have a tall Pike Place Roast coffee and a bowl of oatmeal with brown sugar. Writing, walking, paying property taxes, house cleaning, and doing household budget/tax stuff is on my day’s agenda… Continue reading Open-Mic Poetry Reading
New Year, New Beginning Dating is a big step for me. I’ve been a widower since April 2018. Last winter, I had a long-time friend have her hubby pass away. Around the first of May, I became bold and told her that when she was ready to consider going out to eat or having coffee… Continue reading New Year, New Beginning
A Home or a Museum? I attended a multi-week grief, loss, and transition workshop about five months after my wife passed away. There was one statement shared during the course that caught my attention. The leader said while it is okay to maintain memories of our dearly departed, we need to be careful not to… Continue reading A Home or a Museum?