Workshops Have Value Before signing up for and attending, I knew grief, loss and transition workshops have value. I knew their value from more than an intellectual understanding. I had attended a twelve-week course on three different occasions. In 2006, my late wife and I attend the classes offered by our church following my mother-in-law’s… Continue reading Grief, Loss, and Transition Workshops
Start Taking Care of Your Life Today We all have things in our lives that need taking care of. I’ve been reminded of this too many times in the last six years as I’ve had my mother, then father, and finally my wife pass away. Add to that several friends who simply passed into eternity… Continue reading Start Taking Care of Your Life
Return to Normalcy It’s Thursday, January 2, 2020. I’m at my regular table at my usual coffeehouse, enjoying a tall Pike Place Roast coffee in a “for here” cup. What’s a “for here” cup, you ask? It’s china instead of a paper cup. I also have oatmeal for breakfast. I just mixed the brown sugar… Continue reading I’m A Person of Daily Routine
New Year, New Beginning Dating is a big step for me. I’ve been a widower since April 2018. Last winter, I had a long-time friend have her hubby pass away. Around the first of May, I became bold and told her that when she was ready to consider going out to eat or having coffee… Continue reading New Year, New Beginning
I’ve been a widower since April 12, 2018. That’s the date my wife died. We had been married since 1974. That’s a long time. Sometimes I feel like she died yesterday. The memories are still very fresh. Just this week, I attended the funeral of a friend’s wife in the very chapel where my sweetheart’s memorial… Continue reading The New Normal
A Home or a Museum? I attended a multi-week grief, loss, and transition workshop about five months after my wife passed away. There was one statement shared during the course that caught my attention. The leader said while it is okay to maintain memories of our dearly departed, we need to be careful not to… Continue reading A Home or a Museum?
6 Tips on Figuring Out Your Bills for Widowers The Way We Were I married my senior year of college. When I graduated from university, I received a commission as an officer in the US Army and was selected for active duty. I soon found myself gone from home on training assignments or lengthy deployments… Continue reading 6 Tips on Figuring Out Your Bills for Widowers
Where’s Dad? If you’re in good health and live on your own, your adult children don’t need to know your every whereabouts. They do not need to know everything you are doing. Attempting to do this will drive you and your kids crazy. If you require that level of care, there are facilities and services… Continue reading One Way For Grown Children to Keep Track of You
EPISODE 4 Why Am I Asking Permission? I mentioned to my two oldest children (early 40s and late 30s in age) that I was going to remove about two-dozen family pictures from the fireplace mantle. I guess if I’m honest with myself, I was asking their approval for a change I wanted to make. It’s… Continue reading When Can I Make Changes?
EPISODE 2 The Way We Were Before my late wife and I married, we went through premarital counseling. A treasured part of the process was a couple of session on budgeting. We listened to the instructions. We talked about the process and our priorities. Finally, we set up a simple budget. The person leading the… Continue reading What Bills Do I Owe and When Are They Due?