I’ve been a widower since April 12, 2018. That’s the date my wife died. We had been married since 1974. That’s a long time. Sometimes I feel like she died yesterday. The memories are still very fresh. Just this week, I attended the funeral of a friend’s wife in the very chapel where my sweetheart’s memorial… Continue reading The New Normal
Scary Flash Grease Fire The picture is not my oven. However … I had a terrifying flash grease fire in my oven this past Sunday. I had been broiling burgers and had a “boom” and flames shooting out from around the oven door about a foot on all sides before dying. The fire was hot… Continue reading How to Survive A Grease Fire In Your Oven
A Home or a Museum? I attended a multi-week grief, loss, and transition workshop about five months after my wife passed away. There was one statement shared during the course that caught my attention. The leader said while it is okay to maintain memories of our dearly departed, we need to be careful not to… Continue reading A Home or a Museum?
6 Tips on Figuring Out Your Bills for Widowers The Way We Were I married my senior year of college. When I graduated from university, I received a commission as an officer in the US Army and was selected for active duty. I soon found myself gone from home on training assignments or lengthy deployments… Continue reading 6 Tips on Figuring Out Your Bills for Widowers
12 Tips for Buying Groceries for Widowers I was married for over forty-three years when my wife died. She did the grocery shopping in our household. Her death forced me to buy groceries. When I first went to the store, it took me over three hours, and I didn’t have what I needed. As the… Continue reading 12 Tips for Buying Groceries for Widowers
EPISODE 6 Preventive Check-up On March 22nd I went to the dermatologist for a routine preventive check-up. My interest in getting a heck of my skin started with a kick in the seat of my pants from my late wife. She had been diagnosed with Melanoma Cancer in June 2015. She scheduled an appointment for me… Continue reading Lessons Learned from Your Late Spouse Can Save Your Life
Where’s Dad? If you’re in good health and live on your own, your adult children don’t need to know your every whereabouts. They do not need to know everything you are doing. Attempting to do this will drive you and your kids crazy. If you require that level of care, there are facilities and services… Continue reading One Way For Grown Children to Keep Track of You
EPISODE 4 Why Am I Asking Permission? I mentioned to my two oldest children (early 40s and late 30s in age) that I was going to remove about two-dozen family pictures from the fireplace mantle. I guess if I’m honest with myself, I was asking their approval for a change I wanted to make. It’s… Continue reading When Can I Make Changes?
EPISODE 3 Buying Groceries Tuesday, December 5, 2017, was the last day my late wife went to the grocery store and purchased groceries. It’s not unusual I would remember a date. She usually shopped on a Tuesday. She worked retail for over fifteen years for the big box retail store based out of Northwest Arkansas.… Continue reading Running Out of Groceries
EPISODE 2 The Way We Were Before my late wife and I married, we went through premarital counseling. A treasured part of the process was a couple of session on budgeting. We listened to the instructions. We talked about the process and our priorities. Finally, we set up a simple budget. The person leading the… Continue reading What Bills Do I Owe and When Are They Due?