The Bucket List Trip

Let me tell you my story. In August of 2016, my wife Benita and I took a lengthy “bucket list” trip. In our forty plus years of marriage, she had never been to the northeastern USA. She had heard stories from my early teens when I lived in New England as a military brat. She… Continue reading The Bucket List Trip

How God Uses Problems in Your Life

Problems Maybe like me, after you lost your spouse you found yourself faced with problems. Examples that challenged me included: Buying groceries Doing laundry and folding sheets Insurance claims Medical bills Car titles House deeds Claiming her small retirement account Changing the names on checking accounts Getting utilities that were in her name placed in… Continue reading How God Uses Problems in Your Life

Grief, Loss, and Transition Workshops

Workshops Have Value Before signing up for and attending, I knew grief, loss and transition workshops have value. I knew their value from more than an intellectual understanding. I had attended a twelve-week course on three different occasions.  In 2006, my late wife and I attend the classes offered by our church following my mother-in-law’s… Continue reading Grief, Loss, and Transition Workshops

Daily Routine

Morning Writing It’s Tuesday, January 7, 2020. It was a cool 38 degrees F on my front porch in The Colony, Texas at 5:30 AM. Sunrise is still two hours away as I write this post. I’m enjoying a grande Pike Place Roast coffee this morning at my favorite coffeehouse (Starbucks, on Preston, just north… Continue reading Daily Routine

Open-Mic Poetry Reading

Coffee and Oatmeal It’s 6:10 AM on Monday morning, January 6, 2020. I’m out of the house and at my favorite coffeehouse. I have a tall Pike Place Roast coffee and a bowl of oatmeal with brown sugar. Writing, walking, paying property taxes, house cleaning, and doing household budget/tax stuff is on my day’s agenda… Continue reading Open-Mic Poetry Reading

New Year, New Beginning

New Year, New Beginning Dating is a big step for me. I’ve been a widower since April 2018.  Last winter, I had a long-time friend have her hubby pass away. Around the first of May, I became bold and told her that when she was ready to consider going out to eat or having coffee… Continue reading New Year, New Beginning

Episode 1 – Your Wife Is Going To Die

The idea for a survival blog for a widower grew out of my personal experience. My wife of over 43 years passed away in April 2018. Even with preplanning the funeral, having wills, and knowing when the bills were due I found myself overwhelmed by grief and the challenge of keeping on keeping on. The… Continue reading Episode 1 – Your Wife Is Going To Die